Whenever I meet new people, whether that be in person or on a dating site, I tend to get a similar compliment. “You look just like this YouTuber!” people say. “I don’t remember her name, but she’s deaf, and she’s high-femme too…”
“Yeah! That’s her.”
It’s a compliment I’m genuinely honored to receive. Jessica Kellgren-Fozard has been one of my biggests style icons since I first started period dressing more than a year ago. I came across her channel after seeing her in a BBC video about deafness, which is something Jessica has covered extensively on her channel. Not only is Jessica deaf, but she’s also an advocate for chronic illnesses and disabilities. Although it may not be obvious from looking at her, Jessica struggles with disabilities such as a connective tissue disorder, scoliosis, postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome (POTS), and cognitive/memory issues as a result of a failed spinal treatment. Although Jessica’s disabilities cause her constant fatigue, pain, migraines, and even fainting spells, she handles each of her adversities with poise and courage. She’s unapologetically proud of who she is, and she never lets her disabilities stop her from pursuing her dreams.
Jessica does talk about her health quite a bit on her YouTube channel and other social media, but she doesn’t let it define her. If you pop over to her channel, you’ll also find a variety of makeup reviews, hair tutorials, fashion lookbooks, and vlog-type videos with her wife, Claudia. As a bisexual woman with high hopes of having my own gay wedding, I absolutely love watching Jessica and Claudia’s romance blossom. They’re both incredible role models, and face all their hardships with bravery and humor. I think I speak for all of Jessica’s subscribers when I say we want a partner like Claudia someday.
Whether she intends it or not, Jessica reminds me to be thankful for what I have, and appreciative of the day ahead of me. She doesn’t dwell on the past or the future, she’s focused solely on what’s in front of her, and how she can make the best of it. She’s taught me, along with hundreds of thousands of others, how to enjoy the little things in life and love ourselves completely. She brings brightness and joy to every situation, no matter how dark and tedious things way seem. Considering everything Jessica has gone through, including the ignorance of sh*tty doctors, she has remained extremely positive and upbeat.
I admire Jessica for speaking candidly and bravely, for sharing her story with wisdom and humor. Jessica doesn’t want to be pitied for who she is, she wants to be celebrated. It’s something we can all learn from, even if we don’t have debilitating disabilities or chronic illnesses. Her message is universal: love yourself for who you are, accept what you have gone through, and forgive yourself for what you can’t control.
If you’re interested in checking out Julia’s channel, I’ve included the link to that below. I also recommend checking out her instagram, @jessicaoutofthecloset, as she posts several cute outfit pictures!
Jessica’s channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDdi0yUyGW1PKzYXaIACnuA
All photos are taken directly from Jessica’s YouTube channel and Instagram
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